Not the oldest grandchild.

My paternal birth-grandfather recently passed away. My birth father’s wife kept me up to date on every minute detail of his diagnosis, battle and his eventual death due to pancreatic cancer. I read each message and felt immense sympathy toward a man I never met even though we live in the same city.
Besides a [...]

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Adoption Records Opened in Ontario

Finally. As of June 1, 2009 if you were adopted in Ontario – or if your child was placed for adoption – you can receive information from your birth and adoption records through Service Ontario.
Prior to locating my birth parents the only information I had was the initial of my birth surname, my first name [...]

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I Gave Birth to a Baby Girl.

I haven’t written in a long time.
I had a baby.
I am mom to a beautiful baby girl born in August 2008. Her conception and birth is nothing short of a miracle for her father and I. In short, I found out I was pregnant around Christmas 2008. I was not undergoing fertility treatments. I was, [...]

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Searching for Birth Parents Using the Internet

I have had a few requests to provide more information on how and where an adoptee (particularly those in a closed public adoption) can start their search for their birth parents, and so this posting will hopefully do just that with a focus on searching using the Internet. Please keep in mind that I am [...]

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Ten Confessions of an Adoptee

I often wonder how different I would have turned out had I been raised by my birth parents
I often think my birth parents are still hiding some information regarding my birth from me
My adoptive parents are my parents and it [...]

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I’m a Person, Not a Material Object.

I have a friend who was adopted at birth through a closed private adoption. She has always known she was adopted and recently when she asked her adoptive mother about how soon her mom felt a bond between them her adoptive mother answered immediately. My friend was touched, however it was what her adoptive mother [...]

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Unsuspecting Twins Marry – Another Reason Open Adoption is a Good Thing

There are many downsides to closed adoptions, but the recent story of twins unwittingly marrying one another because they didn’t know they were siblings (read story here) is definitely a strong argument in favour of open adoption. Some people may laugh at the twins’ misfortune, but as an adoptee of a closed adoption I empathize. [...]

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The sad side of adoption.

Over the holiday season I witnessed many friends and colleagues celebrating their first Christmases with their new sons or daughters. It was a special time for them filled with many family, friends and copious posing with babies for pictures. It struck me then that I spent my first Christmas on earth alone. For reasons I [...]

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Coping with my own Infertility

After trying to conceive for nearly two years I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I have no eggs left and probably had few eggs to begin with. Not a lot is known about POF except that no fertility drug in the world can make your body produce something you were not born with. My [...]

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Is it Ironic?

The one thing that makes an adopted child different from other children is that an adopted child, such as me, knows (or should know) they are adopted. They know someone other than their parents gave them life (and for all intents and purposes my adoptive parents are my parents, after all I grew up calling [...]

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