Not the oldest grandchild.

My paternal birth-grandfather recently passed away. My birth father’s wife kept me up to date on every minute detail of his diagnosis, battle and his eventual death due to pancreatic cancer. I read each message and felt immense sympathy toward a man I never met even though we live in the same city.
Besides a [...]

Read Full Post »

Celebrity Adoption

When I heard Madonna was hoping to adopt internationally again, I immediately had my concerns. Some people think such celebrities should focus their attention on adopting within their own country, while others believe the fact that their desire to adopt brings adoption into the spotlight is a positive thing.
In the April 2009 Adoption Council of [...]

Read Full Post »

Searching for Birth Parents Using the Internet

I have had a few requests to provide more information on how and where an adoptee (particularly those in a closed public adoption) can start their search for their birth parents, and so this posting will hopefully do just that with a focus on searching using the Internet. Please keep in mind that I am [...]

Read Full Post »

Amanda is Looking for her Birth Sister – Can you help?

The following came in as a comment to another posting, but I thought I would give it it’s own posting in hopes that maybe someone will be able to help this person. If the Internet is good for one thing, it is a good resource for people who are searching for a lost loved one.
————-
My [...]

Read Full Post »

The Confusion and Guilt of Being a Sister by Birth

My first face-to-face meeting with my half-birth-sister on my birth-father’s side was when she was fifteen years old. She was full of attitude and spunk and my initial impression upon seeing her was that she is very pretty, has nice long legs (must be from her mother’s side) and that she looked like a nice [...]

Read Full Post »

The sad side of adoption.

Over the holiday season I witnessed many friends and colleagues celebrating their first Christmases with their new sons or daughters. It was a special time for them filled with many family, friends and copious posing with babies for pictures. It struck me then that I spent my first Christmas on earth alone. For reasons I [...]

Read Full Post »

Coping with my own Infertility

After trying to conceive for nearly two years I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I have no eggs left and probably had few eggs to begin with. Not a lot is known about POF except that no fertility drug in the world can make your body produce something you were not born with. My [...]

Read Full Post »

Is it Ironic?

The one thing that makes an adopted child different from other children is that an adopted child, such as me, knows (or should know) they are adopted. They know someone other than their parents gave them life (and for all intents and purposes my adoptive parents are my parents, after all I grew up calling [...]

Read Full Post »

Who do I Look Like?

I found my birth father and I found my birth mother. As an adoptee of a closed adoption, I was so happy to just to know my birth mother. And once the moment of surprise at finding her had passed, I could hardly wait to receive pictures from her. I could hardly wait to see [...]

Read Full Post »

It takes a whole village to raise a child

There seems to be a lot of controversy around adoption. Here is what I think: when done right and for the right reasons adoption can be a wonderful thing, when done wrong adoption can emotionally tear someone apart and have perpetually negative consequences.
I am an adoptee. My adoption was public and closed. In recent years [...]

Read Full Post »