Searching for Birth Parents Using the Internet

I have had a few requests to provide more information on how and where an adoptee (particularly those in a closed public adoption) can start their search for their birth parents, and so this posting will hopefully do just that with a focus on searching using the Internet. Please keep in mind that I am [...]

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Breast Feeding as an Adoptive Mother

Occasionally I take a look at online waiting parent registries for no other reason than because I am curious. Recently I came across a posting in which an adoptive mother offers to breast feed their adopted baby. Apparently hormone pills can be administered that assist in the production of breast milk. This particular adoptive [...]

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Ten Confessions of a Hopeful Adoptive Parent

I am worried my husband and I will never be chosen to privately adopt
Just when I think I know everything there is to know about adoption I find out I don’t
The first time we heard about open adoption it scared [...]

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I’m a Person, Not a Material Object.

I have a friend who was adopted at birth through a closed private adoption. She has always known she was adopted and recently when she asked her adoptive mother about how soon her mom felt a bond between them her adoptive mother answered immediately. My friend was touched, however it was what her adoptive mother [...]

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Unsuspecting Twins Marry – Another Reason Open Adoption is a Good Thing

There are many downsides to closed adoptions, but the recent story of twins unwittingly marrying one another because they didn’t know they were siblings (read story here) is definitely a strong argument in favour of open adoption. Some people may laugh at the twins’ misfortune, but as an adoptee of a closed adoption I empathize. [...]

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A Special Infertile Couple

What is infertility doing in a blog about adoption? Everything. In most cases, it is infertile individuals and couples who build a family through adoption. Without adoption there would be many benevolent people who desire children but because of a fate beyond their control would live a childless life.
My adoptive parents (my parents) were such [...]

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Is it Ironic?

The one thing that makes an adopted child different from other children is that an adopted child, such as me, knows (or should know) they are adopted. They know someone other than their parents gave them life (and for all intents and purposes my adoptive parents are my parents, after all I grew up calling [...]

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Meant to be

The most surprising information my birth mother shared with me shortly after our reunion was that she met someone a few months after my birth, married within the year and had her first child two years following my birth. At first I was unsure how I felt about this. I had fully expected my birth [...]

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It takes a whole village to raise a child

There seems to be a lot of controversy around adoption. Here is what I think: when done right and for the right reasons adoption can be a wonderful thing, when done wrong adoption can emotionally tear someone apart and have perpetually negative consequences.
I am an adoptee. My adoption was public and closed. In recent years [...]

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The first Christmas after the Reunion

I have known my birth father and his family for well over 10-years now. Our relationship has been a learning and growth process for both of us.
Take for instance the first Christmas after we reconnected. My birth father had asked me if it would be okay if he sent me gifts for Christmas. What [...]

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