Not the oldest grandchild.

My paternal birth-grandfather recently passed away. My birth father’s wife kept me up to date on every minute detail of his diagnosis, battle and his eventual death due to pancreatic cancer. I read each message and felt immense sympathy toward a man I never met even though we live in the same city.
Besides a [...]

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Searching for Birth Parents Using the Internet

I have had a few requests to provide more information on how and where an adoptee (particularly those in a closed public adoption) can start their search for their birth parents, and so this posting will hopefully do just that with a focus on searching using the Internet. Please keep in mind that I am [...]

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Adoption Connections

I don’t think I fully understood open adoption until I began researching open adoption online. Through the magic of the Internet I was introduced to a remarkable woman who was not only a birth mother, but who has opened her heart and talents to other birth parents and adoptive parents in Canada through her website [...]

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Breast Feeding as an Adoptive Mother

Occasionally I take a look at online waiting parent registries for no other reason than because I am curious. Recently I came across a posting in which an adoptive mother offers to breast feed their adopted baby. Apparently hormone pills can be administered that assist in the production of breast milk. This particular adoptive [...]

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Ten Confessions of a Hopeful Adoptive Parent

I am worried my husband and I will never be chosen to privately adopt
Just when I think I know everything there is to know about adoption I find out I don’t
The first time we heard about open adoption it scared [...]

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I’m a Person, Not a Material Object.

I have a friend who was adopted at birth through a closed private adoption. She has always known she was adopted and recently when she asked her adoptive mother about how soon her mom felt a bond between them her adoptive mother answered immediately. My friend was touched, however it was what her adoptive mother [...]

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The sad side of adoption.

Over the holiday season I witnessed many friends and colleagues celebrating their first Christmases with their new sons or daughters. It was a special time for them filled with many family, friends and copious posing with babies for pictures. It struck me then that I spent my first Christmas on earth alone. For reasons I [...]

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Coping with my own Infertility

After trying to conceive for nearly two years I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I have no eggs left and probably had few eggs to begin with. Not a lot is known about POF except that no fertility drug in the world can make your body produce something you were not born with. My [...]

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A Special Infertile Couple

What is infertility doing in a blog about adoption? Everything. In most cases, it is infertile individuals and couples who build a family through adoption. Without adoption there would be many benevolent people who desire children but because of a fate beyond their control would live a childless life.
My adoptive parents (my parents) were such [...]

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Is it Ironic?

The one thing that makes an adopted child different from other children is that an adopted child, such as me, knows (or should know) they are adopted. They know someone other than their parents gave them life (and for all intents and purposes my adoptive parents are my parents, after all I grew up calling [...]

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