Not the oldest grandchild.

My paternal birth-grandfather recently passed away. My birth father’s wife kept me up to date on every minute detail of his diagnosis, battle and his eventual death due to pancreatic cancer. I read each message and felt immense sympathy toward a man I never met even though we live in the same city.
Besides a [...]

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Who Does She Look Like?

I suppose it’s a natural question, but it never occurred to me that family and friends would be so entranced with who my biological daughter looks like more – her mom or her dad? My mother-in-law went so far as to post an 8×10 picture of my husband at six months of age on [...]

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I Gave Birth to a Baby Girl.

I haven’t written in a long time.
I had a baby.
I am mom to a beautiful baby girl born in August 2008. Her conception and birth is nothing short of a miracle for her father and I. In short, I found out I was pregnant around Christmas 2008. I was not undergoing fertility treatments. I was, [...]

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Adoption Connections

I don’t think I fully understood open adoption until I began researching open adoption online. Through the magic of the Internet I was introduced to a remarkable woman who was not only a birth mother, but who has opened her heart and talents to other birth parents and adoptive parents in Canada through her website [...]

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Amanda is Looking for her Birth Sister – Can you help?

The following came in as a comment to another posting, but I thought I would give it it’s own posting in hopes that maybe someone will be able to help this person. If the Internet is good for one thing, it is a good resource for people who are searching for a lost loved one.
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My [...]

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Breast Feeding as an Adoptive Mother

Occasionally I take a look at online waiting parent registries for no other reason than because I am curious. Recently I came across a posting in which an adoptive mother offers to breast feed their adopted baby. Apparently hormone pills can be administered that assist in the production of breast milk. This particular adoptive [...]

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Ten Confessions of an Adoptee

I often wonder how different I would have turned out had I been raised by my birth parents
I often think my birth parents are still hiding some information regarding my birth from me
My adoptive parents are my parents and it [...]

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The Confusion and Guilt of Being a Sister by Birth

My first face-to-face meeting with my half-birth-sister on my birth-father’s side was when she was fifteen years old. She was full of attitude and spunk and my initial impression upon seeing her was that she is very pretty, has nice long legs (must be from her mother’s side) and that she looked like a nice [...]

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I’m a Person, Not a Material Object.

I have a friend who was adopted at birth through a closed private adoption. She has always known she was adopted and recently when she asked her adoptive mother about how soon her mom felt a bond between them her adoptive mother answered immediately. My friend was touched, however it was what her adoptive mother [...]

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Unsuspecting Twins Marry – Another Reason Open Adoption is a Good Thing

There are many downsides to closed adoptions, but the recent story of twins unwittingly marrying one another because they didn’t know they were siblings (read story here) is definitely a strong argument in favour of open adoption. Some people may laugh at the twins’ misfortune, but as an adoptee of a closed adoption I empathize. [...]

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