Adoption Records Opened in Ontario

Finally. As of June 1, 2009 if you were adopted in Ontario – or if your child was placed for adoption – you can receive information from your birth and adoption records through Service Ontario.
Prior to locating my birth parents the only information I had was the initial of my birth surname, my first name [...]

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Searching for Birth Parents Using the Internet

I have had a few requests to provide more information on how and where an adoptee (particularly those in a closed public adoption) can start their search for their birth parents, and so this posting will hopefully do just that with a focus on searching using the Internet. Please keep in mind that I am [...]

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Amanda is Looking for her Birth Sister – Can you help?

The following came in as a comment to another posting, but I thought I would give it it’s own posting in hopes that maybe someone will be able to help this person. If the Internet is good for one thing, it is a good resource for people who are searching for a lost loved one.
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My [...]

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Ten Confessions of an Adoptee

I often wonder how different I would have turned out had I been raised by my birth parents
I often think my birth parents are still hiding some information regarding my birth from me
My adoptive parents are my parents and it [...]

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Is it Ironic?

The one thing that makes an adopted child different from other children is that an adopted child, such as me, knows (or should know) they are adopted. They know someone other than their parents gave them life (and for all intents and purposes my adoptive parents are my parents, after all I grew up calling [...]

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Meant to be

The most surprising information my birth mother shared with me shortly after our reunion was that she met someone a few months after my birth, married within the year and had her first child two years following my birth. At first I was unsure how I felt about this. I had fully expected my birth [...]

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Who do I Look Like?

I found my birth father and I found my birth mother. As an adoptee of a closed adoption, I was so happy to just to know my birth mother. And once the moment of surprise at finding her had passed, I could hardly wait to receive pictures from her. I could hardly wait to see [...]

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The Search for my Birth Mother

Nearly nine years elapsed between the time I found my birth father and my decision to actively search for my birth mother. My wait was partially due to how overwhelmed I felt when I initially reconnected with my birth father. I had decided I wanted to take some time to get to know him and [...]

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It takes a whole village to raise a child

There seems to be a lot of controversy around adoption. Here is what I think: when done right and for the right reasons adoption can be a wonderful thing, when done wrong adoption can emotionally tear someone apart and have perpetually negative consequences.
I am an adoptee. My adoption was public and closed. In recent years [...]

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Sister with Two Names

I’ll never forget the first time my half-sister by birth (forgive me if the terminology is not correct) referred to me as her sister. She was probably seven or eight-years old and I, still in a state of shock over finding and having a relationship with my birth father and his family, almost threw up. [...]

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