- I often wonder how different I would have turned out had I been raised by my birth parents
- I often think my birth parents are still hiding some information regarding my birth from me
- My adoptive parents are my parents and it bothers me when they are referred to as adoptive parents
- I consider my birth families friends of the family more so than I consider them family
- I really like my birth sister on my birth-mother’s side and think she would have made an awesome sister growing up
- I wish my brother would search for his birth parents so we could hopefully find out more about his developmental delays
- People often comment how much my mom and I look alike (I mean my adoptive mom for those who are confused) and that makes me happy
- One of the worst things about being adopted through a closed adoption was not having access to medical information – how is that fair?
- When I was in elementary school my best friend didn’t believe I was adopted and called my mom to ask her if it was true.
- I used to use adoption as an excuse not to do family tree assignments in elementary school – I can’t believe some teachers fell for it.
I HATED the family tree assignments in school. SO unfair!
I just thought you were supposed to put your “adoptive family” to those of you that aren’t adopted. I always did and I never thought to put a family I didn’t know!
Of course you are suppose to put your adoptive family down on your tree.
But I too hated them. It was just another reminder of the fact i didnt really know who the ____ i was!
I hated not knowing who i looked like or if i was German or Irish, blah blah blah
So, if I may ask…to whom ever wishes to respond. I am a first mom, I relinquished,very reluctantly,I might add, twin sons in 1986. Is it your opinion that I am better off not searching? Does the desire get overwhelming to just know for a child of adoption as it does for a mom? Thanks for your opinions…
Ceejay1, Everyone is different and everyone’s adoption experience is different. I have know adoptees who deeply want to know about their birth family. I have known adoptees who are mildly interested. And I have known adoptees who claim that they don’t want to know anything.
Adoptiontree: All 10 of your confessions ring very true to me. My birth parents feel like friends or distant relatives, but my birth siblings really, really feel like siblings.
Kind regards,
Quetzalito